Chapter 2

Chapter 2- The Glue on the Web

The image that is created by a pedophile is so perfect it is scary, not a line out of place.  They are the beloved coach who drives the kids home when practice is just too late or something came up at the last second.  He is the supportive, encouraging and oh so funny.  Maybe he has a girlfriend or wife whom he says “can’t get pregnant” but She is rarely around when he is with the kids.  He supports all the kids dreams, and spends extra time “planning” with them.  He remembers birthdays and special occasions, and loves to be included in these events.

He may be the teacher that all the kids love because he is the “fun teacher.”  He has extra field trips, and activities after school.  He observes when something is wrong, and he provides “emotional support” and the normal acting out your child naturally practices, seems to magically cease.  Little does anyone know that she is still acting out, and that this calm is only the breath before the hurricane strikes.  He is making her think that keeping secrets is okay, and to reject her family is normal.  He is teaching her to be sexual, and to reject her own values and adopt his, he is molding her into the perfect victim.  He is isolating her in public, and becoming the only one she wants to turn to, and she is probably believing that he is the only one who loves her, he tells her how evil doctors and parents are.  He sees himself as a God, and he wants her to see him the same way, as perfect.  As the best thing in the world, but at some point he will begin to slip, and when that happens you will begin to see things that had magically disappeared coming back, worse than ever, but by now it is too late.  The web has been set, and she is stuck in it.  You are only starting to realize that so are you, and try as you might, you may not be able to save her this time.

The things you say to yourself in your head, the things you blame yourself for, and then you ask her what’s wrong and she stone walls you.  The more you try to connect the less she wants to be around you, the closer you pull her the harder she shoves back.  And now you really know something is wrong, and she knows something is wrong but neither one of you knows how to communicate it to the other one. You yell and scream at eachother, you tell her she should love you enough, trust you enough, have enough history with you to trust you.  You have no idea what she went through and she does not want to tell you what she is experiencing, so she becomes defiant and stays angry, she turns to him more, no one knows why, and you begin to doubt everything.  You are both stuck in the glue, wrapped in the threads of the web of lies.